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A Piece Full World's goal
is to end bullying in our schools. When employees are safe from workplace bullying and children are safe
from school bullying, we transform our schools into places of honor, courage and character. Ultimately, we
transform our world. One school at a time, we put together the pieces of....
A Piece Full World.
Click "No Place for Hate!" The Anti-Defamation League has terrific resources for creating
a school wide bullying prevention program!
"Many people, especially ignorant people,
want to punish you for speaking the truth, for being correct, for being you. Never apologize for being correct or for being
years ahead of your time. If you're right and you know it, speak your mind. Even if you are a minority of one, the truth is
still the truth."
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"Real progress requires pushing and shoving and urging and cajoling and coaxing – and then pushing some
more (courteously when you can, not so mannerly if the former doesn’t work)."
--David Lawrence Jr., The Children's Movement
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School Board Rule:Responsibilities and
Duties states: All persons employed by the School Board of (School District's name) are representatives of the (School District's
name). As such they are expected to conduct themselves, both in their employment and in the community, in a manner that will
reflect credit upon themselves and the school system. Unseemly conduct in the workplace is expressly prohibited.
School Board Rule: Code of Ethics states: All members of the School Board of (School District's name), regardless
of their position, collective bargaining status or role, because of their dual
roles as public servants and educators are to be bound by the Code of Ethics..to
create an environment of honesty and integrity...the freedom to learn and to teach and
the guarantee of equal opportunity for all..strive for professional growth and seek to exercise the best professional
judgment and integrity...to achieve and sustain the highest degree of ethical
Two moments frozen in time. My story's turning point...
March 16. 2010. The zenith. Him. Screaming. “JUST
DO IT!” Raising up from his desk.
Menacing. Seething. Did I
imagine the hatred in his eyes? Do I now? I have lived this moment many times since then.
Me. Ashen faced I am certain.
Passing his—our—boss, the "next layer of bosses", visiting from our region, in the corridor outside
of his office. I passed the boss entering. I passed the boss leaving.
Him. Not knowing our—his-- boss was there.
Me. My words. “I
Him. His words. “JUST GET ME THE DATES!!”
The “next-layer-of-bosses” boss hearing; probably shaken to have chosen that moment to visit us.
He heard. He saw me.
Me. Jaw clenched. Face pale.
I looked at the “next-layer” boss. Our eyes met twice. I said nothing either time. Not entering. Not
This same boss later advised I call the police to accompany me into the school to clear my
Me.... me. I brought dates to my bully. Real dates
for real things I had done. Two dates. Not ten dates. I made certain my assistant principal to whom I handed the
form knew I’d made a copy.
I returned to my office. I cried. I felt
desolate and alone. I did not then know how courageous I had been in that moment. I did not know that even
more would later be required.
2010. A parent. A man. Limited English.
This same man. Assertive. Deliberate.
Children going to their classrooms.
This man’s words to my principal. “This
is not just your school. This is my school. This is my son’s school too.”
Him. Him. Calling 911.
Him. Hell bent on getting this assertive
Me....me. In disbelief.
I recently read about
how in moments of horror, we sometimes freeze. I froze that day. I simply could not get my mind around
my school leader throwing out one of our students’ parents.
I simply could not comprehend children,
small children with book bags on their backs—some with damp hair—some clutching parents’ hands-- witnessing
that. I simply could not believe that following my witnessing that egregious act, I was to “go about my business”
of counseling children.
It was as if he rubbed his hands together in acknowledgement of a “job well
My God. My God.
How easy to pretend. Years of pretending
had wrapped themselves around this man.
In that moment I felt raw fear.
P.S. Readers, here's a very, very sad thing: My experience is just one of thousands. I'm just willing
to share it in hopes it helps someone out there.
I ask for your stories of workplace abuse. I look
particularly for stories of school leaders' abuse. There are many. I will publish them, with little editing.
I will publish them anonomously or not. You decide. Just send me the stories at email@example.com
You know what? I'd also like stories of effective leadership. I now work for an effective leader.
He's simply a nice, fun and respectful man. It's really that simple!
"Be ashamed to die before you have won some battle for humanity."